Miss Know-It-All: Dear Unhappy

Hi 🙂 My friend and I have known each other for almost 2 years, and everything seemed to be going great, but these days he always throws “us dating” remarks anytime we’re together, and I have told him several times that I don’t want to be in a relationship and focus on what’s ahead of me, but he won’t stop pestering. I really don’t know what to do with him now 😦 Sincerely, Unhappy

Dear Unhappy,

I’m really sorry to hear that your friend doesn’t realize that you are after all, just friends 😉 (Cue Anne Marie song). But in all seriousness, if you’ve already mentioned how you feel about getting into a relationship, he has to realize that and respect your decisions. Otherwise, this could potentially affect his future interactions with you. If you feel uncomfortable in this friendship and like he isn’t respecting your boundaries, then it’s not worth keeping, more so if it also stresses you out. In my opinion, friends are there to share and relieve your burdens, not add to them. My advice would be to let him know all of this. If worst comes to worst, you may have to set up an ultimatum: him accepting being friend-zoned, or the end of this relationship. If he values you enough, he should be able to understand that there are some boundaries that shouldn’t be crossed. 

That being said, do give him the time and space to make this decision, because if he is serious about you as a potential love interest, this may indeed be a hard choice for him to make.

Good Luck!

Miss Know-It-All

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